Last year a friend was telling me about a fresh stage in her marriage. They have always been in love, and have dealt with a litany of health issues, and family losses over the decades. But she and her husband decided to lose weight. His doctor said that it is vital if he wants to live to watch his grandchildren grow up. Hence the plan. 

 

They go on regular walks, which in this early spring weather is a sweet way to spend forty minutes. They chat, and listen to the birds. Maybe they even hold hands. Probably there is laughter, since that is a part of what keeps them close. They are also more careful about their meals, counting calories and measuring portion sizes. It is another reason to slow down and eat side by side. There are fewer desserts. but companionship is just as satisfying. 

 

One of the things she and I have in common is twins. We have both trudged through an avalanche of diapers, and held a baby on each hip, pushed double strollers, and buckled car seats side by side. That makes us kindred spirits. 

 

She and her husband celebrated their thirtieth anniversary, back when we could still do that, with a party and a room full of people who love them. This year is their thirty second which is not so noteworthy, but will be remembered as the one that brought them together in a new way. Plus the concerted effort will make it more likely that they get to celebrate their fortieth. 

 

Then they can eat cake.