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The other day on NPR I heard a woman being interviewed about some topic which escapes me. What stuck however was her sweeping comment.

 

"I am from the west. People in the east may want ....... but those of us who live in the west don't."

 

I sometimes hear people edit their own words mid sentence. 

 

"My wife and I.... excuse me, let me speak for myself, I would like to come. I will check with her."

 

This is a good thing. Always. (catch that sweeping statement?)

 

Although I have a lengthy history with John, and my kids, and my siblings, something freezes when I believe there are no more surprises. Do I actually think I have paid close enough attention to predict all future interactions? Good grief, I still surprise myself. It is not as if any of us are made of metal and never change.

 

It is a choppy transition to go from the dictatorial state of early parenting to the gradual introduction of choice for young children. Personally I have bungled it on numerous occasions. 

 

"You did not want to have a playdate? Sorry, I already invited her."

 

"You don't want piano lessons? Oops, I already paid through December."

 

Other times my kids are annoyed that I cannot predict their wishes. 

 

"Mooom, you know I always want my burrito with cheddar, corn, beans and olives on a corn tortilla, but Hope wants them with white cheese, guac, rice and salsa on a wheat one!" I am glad they think I am that smart.

 

Zack took matters into his own hands. He made a note on my phone about exactly how he prefers his burritos. He can even edit it as the need arises.

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