(If you want to hear Lori read the story click) here

 

 

 

We measure things to the extreme. I can access my credit rating, my driving record, my BMI, our bank account and the current value of my house on Zillow. Someone put the app for following the stock market on my IPhone, thinking that I care about such things. Right. There is another app to tell me the weather, including wind force, temperature and precipitation. In my kitchen alone there are dials to inform me about the microwave, dishwasher, refrigerator, oven and the correct time. If I were to add all those numbers up, it would be impressive.

 

But who knows the numbers on your own relationship? It can be quantified. The man who set up what he calls The Love Lab is as hard core a scientist as you are likely to find in a tome filled office at MIT. He has measured physiological and facial responses while couples interact, and noticed a thing or two. He tries to translate the numbers into words the average husband and wife can understand, and hopefully integrate across the table at home. 

 

Headed for divorce- 1 to 1.25

Stable- 5 to 1

Vibrant- 20 to 1

 

The numbers can reflect back what you may be oblivious to. It offers you the freedom to choose whether to stay the same or to change. 

 

 John Gottman