Marriage Moats-Community
Published: Mon, 09/12/11
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![]() It reminded me of a barn raising. People showed up with tools and wood, trucks and saws. In the space of half a day there was a deck and ramp where this morning there was only cinder blocks sinking into the mud. The women fed the workers and the dozen children that darted between helping and playing.
It is powerful to see love in action. It was of course, love that fueled the project. Someone needed a ramp for smoother access to his front door. People decided they could build it.
It would be convenient if none of us ever needed things like ramps. We want and expect our bodies to perform as well at fifty five as they did at twenty. Not that all the twenty year old bodies are behaving, but mostly they do.
In my mind, and perhaps in yours, the ideal would be that no one faltered or needed support. We all carry our own weight and no one slows the pack. But something would be lost.
To tell the truth, I think the folks who showed up with hammers had a good time today. I heard laughing, and people sharing the tasks. If no one ever wanted help, how would we learn compassion? I know of a marriage that is faltering. Their steps are mired in
the mud of lost trust. But they are different than the man across the
street. They are keeping their suffering hidden.
It would be a blessing to see folks show up to help them rebuild an entrance to their own commitment. No judgement, or scolding. Just a level and a pair of willing hands.
Photo by Jenny Stein
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