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Too bad this couple is so serious.

 

I went to their wedding and the minister talked about what a momentous step they were taking, and how they needed to understand the gravity of the situation. I bet they remembered this moment when he talked about big steps.

 

Then he smiled. Everyone who knows them at all has seen their playfulness. 

 

The program they gave to everyone expressed it well. 

 

Lots of folks packed into the church for this joyful event. Mind you they did have a wedding party of upwards of thirty five, so they knew at least that many would show up. But lots more did too, like me, who is only a cousin-in-law-once-removed.

 

Why do we go? There seem to be a myriad of reasons. First of all it saves on postage when you can hand deliver the wedding gift, especially if you picked something heavy like a five piece fireplace tool set, or granite bookends. And there is always a chance you might get into one of the slew of photographs snapped at the reception. That can make you famous on Facebook anyway, especially if you get tagged.

 

But I think the draw is deeper than that. Being near a couple who say their vows like they mean it can jump your own sluggish battery faster than a pair of red and black cables. And somehow our presence ignites them as well. I can't explain it, since the power goes both ways. I barely passed high school physics but wouldn't that make an engine blow up?

 

I get it that some people choose to slip out of the limelight and elope. But I am enormously grateful to couples who believe they have enough joy to share with four hundred people. 

 

 

 

 

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