Marriage Moats-Falling Water
Published: Mon, 12/06/10
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 Always the same, always new. Which is it?The rocks in this waterfall have been there for a mighty long time. They are solid and stationary. You can walk on them, they are so dependable. The water that flows across them is incapable of stopping. It splashes down the steps in an ever changing current. You can feel its pounding force on your back if you plant yourself midstream.
Marriage is an interacting combination of two forces... one static, one changing.
The static part is the commitment. That is as solid as these rocks. I promised to love you. I promised to love you. Even when I feel no affection, I promised to love you. I can walk on the promise, because it is not going to wash away.
The changing part is the actions that keep flowing. They may be playful this morning, somber last evening. I may express my love by leaving croutons out of the salad at dinner, or adding a hug as you leave for work. One night I may ask you to stay home, because I need help with the kids. Another night I may smile and wave you out the door.
Where did the strength of the rocks come from? Not from me. But I am grateful for our commitment when I remember to be.
Where did the continuous source of water come from? Not from me. But I am grateful for our abundant supply of love when I remember to be.
Photo by Jenny Stein
www.caringformarriage.org
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