Conflict resolution is a fancy term for fighting fair. People who live in close proximity are going to have issues. But there are more and less effective ways to handle them.
An
article in the New York Times identifies a handful of strategies that can help. They are deceptively simple.
Beware transitions- When you drive there are signs to alert you of sharp curves and intersections. Hopefully increased awareness can decrease the calamities. Fights often erupt when people are leaving or coming
home.
Equalize the playing field- When one of you is physically higher than the other, or in a position of advantage, it can raise the angst. Sit side by side.
Cushion the environment- There is a measurable difference between sitting on a straight backed wooden chair and a couch. Soften your seat and it may ease the way you interact.
Go to the balcony- Imagine yourselves on a balcony or performing on a stage. Somehow the
perspective helps keep the larger picture in mind.
Watch your pronouns- Using words like "Us" and "We" is an indicator of cooperation. Avoid the word "You" as a finger wagger.
Conflict is perhaps as inevitable as the wind. But the way we manage it is like learning to let it fill your wings.
