Marriage Moats-The Veil
Published: Fri, 11/16/18
| The Veil | Caring for Marriage |
 Photo by Jenny SteinShe is looking out the window into her future. What does she see?What can anyone see of what lies ahead? We play with reading fortune cookies that tell us we will travel or inherit a small fortune. Sometimes we ask for a glimpse, like the trailer for a movie coming out next spring.
When my mother's condo was flooded, she lost everything of material value. We were, as chance would have it, about to buy a house. A house which she helped fund. It was obvious to me that we needed to welcome her into our home. Never mind that she had a history of mental illness. I still marvel at the miracle that she slept under the same roof as me for the last four years of her life. Even as her vibrant existence slowed to a drift, I am grateful to have been able to bring her muffins. At another time of desperate petition to God, I begged for a sign that I could actually mother a special needs child.
"He will be carried along on the wave of your family."
Twenty years later, I still hear those words in my head, when our autistic son is thrashing out of control and his sibling swoops in to calm him down. The other night I was failing to parent well and texted his brother.
"Want to rescue Ben from me?"
He arrived with fresh energy and took him out for ice cream. When he was beginning to head homeward, Ben suggested, "We could go to your house, if there's time."
It is exciting to look through the window into tomorrow. But I think there is a good reason for the veil.
Love, Lori |
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