Marriage Moats-Catch Me Daddy!

Published: Sun, 10/28/18

Catch Me Daddy

Caring for Marriage

A woman in my online group was being very negative about her husband and the group leader told her to try to think of some positives, even if it was difficult. This is what she came up with. I thought it was touching.

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  He was very helpful in the kitchen. He usually got home from work around 3
  PM, and he usually made dinner for the family. I don't get home until around
  5 PM. He did all the yard work, took care of all car maintenance, always
  called me if he was going to be late, instilled complete trust, did the
  lion's share of bill paying because I hate to write due to carpal tunnel
  syndrome, balanced the checkbook, fixed the toilet when it would break
  (regularly), painted the outside of the house.

He usually remembered to put the toilet seat and lid down. He vacuumed
occasionally. He spent lots of time with the kids. He bought advent
calendars with chocolate behind each day for the kids every Christmas
season. He laughed and joked a lot, and didn't like to be serious. He told
me when I looked good. He learned to enjoy horses because our girls and I
loved to ride.

He was willing to try new dishes I prepared. He loved my lasagna. He went to
church with the family every Sunday, even though he had trouble staying
awake during preaching. Although he doesn't like classical music, he went to
almost every concert our daughters played in when they were in youth
symphony (4 years for one and 6 years for the other).

He held my hand through 3 labors and deliveries, and whispered in my ear to
encourage me. He lovingly dressed an open wound for me after surgery for a
breast abscess after the birth of our 3rd. Four years later, he stood beside
my bed as I was being wheeled to surgery to remove a breast due to cancer,
and tears filled his eyes as they did mine. That was in 1989.

He walked the floor for hours at night with a sleepless, cranky child. He
spooned cereal and baby food into little mouths, and endured spit-up and
baby poop on his clothing. He helped me take care of my mother as she was
dying of cancer.

Is this what you mean? It was difficult to get started, but look what I
  accomplished! I also have a huge lump in my throat and tears in my eyes
  right now. He was a fantastic husband! My sister told me he "adored" me, and I guess that's correct for a lot of the 26 years we have been married.

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Photo by Jenny Stein