I heard a story on the radio about cancer survivors. It described a support group, led by people who have licked the attack on their body. Those folks have an ability to convey genuine hope, because they too have lived through the fear. I suppose it is just not as convincing coming from a person who has never dealt with the overwhelming odds. 

 

There are ways to recover from an affair. It is, of course, a rough ride, but there are paths that have been pounded into place. 

 

One survey explores what the effect of talking through the details of the breach has on a marriage surviving. The author shows a high correlation between being able to ask as many questions about the affair as the betrayed spouse needs and the likelihood that the marriage will endure. 

 

There are ways to pour attention into not getting cancer in the first place. How we eat, or whether we expose our bodies to toxic substances can steer us clear of harm's way. There are also ways to protect against an affair. Amazon offers a string of suggestions for bullet proofing your relationship. The only one I have read is His Needs Her Needs, which does have an interesting strategy: spend fifteen hours a week having fun together. While I find it annoying to suggest that most of us have fifteen spare hours waiting to be claimed for couple bonding, he does have a point. Many couples spend what little time they have together solving issues. Perhaps they could put those on hold while they go fishing.

 

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