Marriage Moats-Looking Closely
Published: Sun, 08/05/12
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![]() I bet they are all around you even now, and you didn't see them.
You walked into the room, sat down and never noticed. It takes energy to
look. It requires a deep desire to find them, even when they are
inconspicuous.
There are green things surrounding you. I started hunting and found
fifty seven and I have not yet even put on my glasses. Some are
turquoise, or sage, forest or apple. They were there whether or not I
turned my head, though I think their color brightened at my gaze. I
laughed to realize I had missed two on first inspection... the rug under my feet and the print of the skirt I am wearing.
Blessings are all around us too, though we get stale at
remembering. It is a pity, really, because the joy is intensified with
awareness. The birds were singing just now, heedless of my attention,
but when I became receptive the sound pierced my calloused senses. I
wonder what happens to the joy when I am too passive to pick it up? Does
it wait for another blessee more open than me? Or is there a cache
predestined for me alone, and if I neglect it it atrophies?
There are blessings in your marriage, even if you are not yet wed.
The blessings come wrapped in hope, and relationships that are honing
your ability to listen and forgive. It is a wondrous gift, the chance to
bump up against an ornery person and learn the skill of compassion. The
gratitude comes later, when experience softens the friction between you
and your spouse. Sometimes you remember.
"I am able to be patient now, because of that rascally co worker after college."
More often we don't. It helps to have a companion in the search. John and I are scribing
them in a journal together. The intention to find them helps creak open
my sights to the ubiquitous. A woman named Ann who is homeschooling her six children on a farm
in Canada is jump starting my sense of blessings. She has a playful list of what to look for. I enjoyed the scavenger hunt.
Photo by Jenny Stein
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