It was one of my favorite dances. The hokey pokey was fun because you didn't have to remember anything. The music told you what to do. Like square dancing but without the cowboy boots. 

"You put your right foot in, you put your right foot out. You put your right foot in and you shake it all about." Then everyone wiggles. 

There is an interesting three minute video about keeping both feet in. It's called The Grass is Greener Where You Water It. Dan Ariely compares a relationship to a lease on an apartment. If the lease is only binding one day at a time, neither the landlord nor the tenant will be motivated to improve it. We have had a series of renters over the years, and the ones who planned to stay awhile put more energy into painting and arranging the layout to best effect. 

Similarly if we have one foot out the door in a relationship, by keeping an eye scanning for a better option, we are less inclined to put in the work required to improve it. 

The author also compares the rosy image we often have of someone we do not know well, contrasted with how obvious the flaws are in the people we are closest to. Sometimes I shudder to think of the failings that my family puts up with on a regular basis. Before I usurped an entire room for sewing my machine sometimes took up space on the dining room table. We are talking pins, scissors and other implements of pain. Then there were months when baby chicks lived under the table. Add to that the likelihood that yesterday's meals are obvious from the evidence on the counter, and there is material for complaints. Yet somehow they manage to overlook my shortcomings and accentuate the positives. 

That's what it's all about.