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The little boy in this photograph is using sign language to tell the ocean that he wants more waves. I am not sure if the seas are multilingual. Considering the fact that they lap on international shores, it would be good if they were.
Husbands can sometimes be in the background of a marriage duo. They
may not be the one who does the inviting, or remembers birthdays. They may talk less at a dinner party, or prefer to stay at home. My own hubby can be fairly chatty if the topic involves Macs or lasers. But when the conversation rolls around to feelings, he gets quieter.
He has explained to me that men's brains have more gray matter, and women's brains more white. It has to do with men having a harder time getting the words and emotions in sync. Men
certainly have feelings. But corralling them into syllables is trickier than keeping a wave on the shore. Which any child who has built a sand castle with a moat knows.
It is a little like the difference between how my adult children use the phone and how I did back in high school. I lived in a dormitory with fifty other girls and to make a call you had to find loose change on your dresser, go down two flights of stairs to the lobby, wait for a
turn, insert a dime and hope your mom would accept the charges, dial the eleven rotating digits, pray that the line was not busy and then if she answered.... talk. When any of my six oldest children want to speak to me they scoop the phone out of their pocket and lightly touch speed dial. If that is too much effort they can just say "Call Mom."
I had plenty to say when I was sixteen, but the path to being able to express it when I was a hundred miles from home
was tedious. My husband, too has things to say, but it takes work.
It is easy to notice the little girl jumping waves. She would be quick to tell you how much fun she is having. The little boy has his own experience of the ocean. But to find out about it you may need to be willing to silence your own reaction and learn sign language.
