Marriage Moats- Pick One

Published: Wed, 08/17/16

Marriage Moats

Caring for Marriage

Pick One
Photo:   Zane Kathryne Schwaiger

When I was little we liked to fold paper toys that yawned and shut, and used them to tell fortunes.

You will become rich

You will have six children

You will grow up to be famous

While I have not fashioned a cootie catcher in a long while, the thirst for predictions lingers still. I wonder whether the weather will be copacetic for my daughter's outdoor wedding. The uncertainty around Benjamin's long term care still haunts me. Decisions about retirement bounce like a ping pong ball. 

If the friend penning prophecies about my adulthood had been brazen enough to be accurate, I would have scoffed. 

You will have twins

Your son will have a disability you have not yet heard of, nor has anyone you know

Your mother will have mental illness and will spend her last years with you

Yet all of those things came to pass. And all of them were blessings. 

Let me be clear. Those circumstances, and a slew of others qualify as blessings, but they were not, I repeat, not always fun. While the memory of sleeplessness, and physical exhaustion has been eclipsed by the joy of two young women auditioning dresses for that outdoor wedding, it was my modus operandi. For years. Benjamin is moaning upstairs, and I do not have any guarantees that today will be scream free. But this week he sat next to me in church and found joy in singing words he knows by heart. 

So bring on your cootie catchers. Scribe it with lofty dreams. And watch them flippity flop until some of them come true.

Your marriage will ripen

Kindness will become your signature characteristic

Your time on this planet will make a difference

The person you love will come back to you


Love, 

Lori