A friend sent an article about weekly marriage meetings.  The process involves keeping up to date with one another through an agreed upon agenda. Because you have a rhythm of meeting at a set time, you can jot down things you would like to bring up. That can keep it from buzzing around in your head like a moth caught in the light of a lantern. 

The four components he suggests are: Appreciations, Chores, Good Times and Challenges. The author posits that keeping it both simple and positive can increase the likelihood of both of you continuing to show up, as well as bringing healthy change to your relationship. 

The article goes into detail about how appreciations work well, and ways to streamline discussions about chores. The section about good times keeps marital enjoyment active in your attention, and enables you to face the challenges with a broader base of cooperation. 

It is hard for me to imagine John and I implementing this. There is no good reason except that we have a lousy track record of family meetings, or chore schedules. But for some people, perhaps more organized than us, or less stodgy, it could be a game changer.