I find the distinction between refraction and reflection intriguing. The former entails two distinct mediums, such as air and water, or outer space and Earth's atmosphere. The disparity in velocity with which the waves of light, or sound travel accounts for the difference. Reflection on the other hand means throwing back the light, or heat, or sound without absorbing it. 

Ben has started yelling again. It is not as intense as it was this time last year, but it is enough to raise my blood pressure. John does a better job than me of staying calm. He has suggested that I try not to absorb the angst. Sometimes John will start singing one of Benjamin's pet songs, which funnels Ben's sound energy in a more acceptable direction when he sings along. Other times John yells in unison, which annoys Ben. 

"If you stop yelling, I will too." He pulls it off without sarcasm, or defiance. Just bouncing back the noise. Often it works. 

When I not only take in Benjamin's agitation, but amplify it, and I know this will surprise you, things go badly. Yet I am apparently a slow learner because I still do it. 

I went out to lunch with a friend who has listened to me over the years. I blabbed about the current areas of discontent which she has probably noticed are remarkably repetitive. Yet she did not match my upset with her own. She listened with serenity. 

By the time we cleared our dishes I felt lighter. It was almost as if I dropped the discontent in the bins with the crumpled napkins.