Marriage Moats- Dead Plant

Published: Wed, 04/13/16

Marriage Moats

Caring for Marriage

Dead Plant
Photo: Anita Halterman  
There are two purple orchids in the upstairs bathroom. I don't usually use that rest room but the other day I did and noticed that the flowers are thriving. I asked the girls about it and they mentioned that they remember to water the plants when they brush their teeth. Not a ton,  just a little bit each time. Hence, they are not dead. 

Not so with the plant in the corner of the living room. It is out of the flow of traffic, and it is not part of anyone's routine to be nearby with extra water, as is the case with toothbrushes. The result is evidenced by brown leaves that droop rather like a wet handlebar mustache. 

The notion occurs to me that it would not be difficult to to change things up. I could bring the living room plant into my own bathroom, and probably it would perk up nicely. 

John and I do not have a regular routine of going out for lunch, or taking walks. It would be good if we did, but we don't. It means that some conversations never catch up, and we certainly never get ahead. But we do have marriage group each week, and that is one guaranteed chunk of time when we will be in the same room, listening to the same people. We will even attend to each other. It is not eons of time, but it is a little bit, every Wednesday. 

Because I don't want to wander across my marriage one day and realize it is as limp as a handlebar mustache. 
Love, 

Lori