Marriage Moats
Published: Wed, 07/07/10
| Marriage Moats | Caring for Marriage |
![]() Carrots are a humble food.
They make a good show above ground, with lacy greens like a
fountain springing from brown earth. But the part that feeds you is
hidden away from marauding rabbits and misguided lawn mowers.
Embryonic carrots start at the surface and go deep,
deeper. Orange appears like magic from a seed that had no more pigment
than dryer lint, and is scarcely the size of a cookie crumb. You rarely see commercials for carrots, though they
are as deserving of recognition as the latest spill proof yogurt snack.
They are versatile, showing up in organic salads, daal, stir fries,
thick soups, juice, juliennes and cream cheese frosted cake. I like that there are usually carrots in our
vegetable crisper. They do not have the snazzy packaging of a
resealable zip lock bag, and there is probably even some residual dirt, waiting to be scrubbed.
But they are crunchy, and sweet, and do good things
for my body if I let them. Eating them gives me keener eyesight, higher
B-carotene levels, and antioxidants. Even kids who wish I would bring
them salt and vinegar potato chips while they play on the floor accept
the offering of carrot sticks, and when I come back the bowl is empty.
Marriage is nourishing too, when your soul feels hungry for the
companionship of someone who has come to stay. Dating and a string of
relationships can be an energy drain... questions and indecision that
show up too frequently when all you want is to know. Falling in love was fun, I will admit, and as pretty
as the carrot tops flirting in the breeze. But what keeps me alive,
today, next year, is the part you cannot see. It is the taproot that
reaches for the core, finding minerals where my eyes cannot even go and
bringing them back to me as lunch.
We are courted by the media with a far different message, one that props narcissism as irresistibly as it does freeze pops, neither of which are even close to being food. So bring on the carrots. I have some cream cheese and nuts. Today, I want to make cake. | |
