Living fifteen miles from the epicenter of the papal visit, it has been a common thread of conversation. Some folks comment on the road closures, others about days off of work. My daughter lives a frisbee toss away from where mass was held and had strict instructions from Secret Service men with black suits and heavy eyebrows to stay off the balcony, and not to park on the street. 

I found the pictures of Pope Francis with his hands on children quite moving, and his smile is as close to a benediction as I can conjure. 

Some people quote the pontiff's positions on controversial topics, particularly when they reinforce their own. Well, only when they do. I suppose everyone wants the Pope in their corner. 

But there is another possibility. Hearing what Pope Francis has to suggest may be an invitation to shift our position. Seventy years of prayer might have bought him a satchel of wisdom. 

One of the qualities of a vibrant relationship is being receptive to influence. If your partner gives you feedback, and your behavior responds, that is a good omen. If instead you dig your heels in deeper, a stalemate can keep you from growing closer. 

When John makes suggestions about how I do dishes, my knee jerk reaction is to defend myself. But when I can hear him, and be changed, our partnership is blessed.