I do not spend as much time making garments as I do quilts. But I did take Home Economics in junior high. I learned how to baste and make darts, clip curves and insert a zipper. So when a job comes along like it did this week, I have some experience to draw on. 

I can picture the woman who taught me in seventh grade. She had black curly hair and she didn't like me. But that did not hamper me from learning. I found her hard to please and spent time with a seam ripper in my hand when my stitches did not meet with her approval. Her philosophy of education did not include praise.  

Forty four years later I am thinking of her, and grateful for the skills I am using to construct a bridesmaid's dress. It would not be difficult if the pattern was all I had to follow. But the finished product needs to match the other dresses in the wedding, and that necessitates alterations, and the addition of a ruffle that extends from shoulder to ankles. The curriculum in seventh grade did not cover that. As it is the project is a stretch, and since the fabric is woven it does not do likewise. Maybe the pleats in front would look better if it did. 

My machine has a foot, number 69, that does rolled hems beautifully. Since they were not standard in the late sixties I reviewed how to use them on You Tube. 

My twins are in seventh grade now, and last Saturday they found a sundress at the thrift store that would do nicely for dancing class. But there was only one. No matter, they decided. They could sew another. While I am thrilled that they feel such confidence, I would not have minded if they had asked for guidance. They were happy with the finished garment which is all that matters now, and hopefully they will keep sewing. But maybe I could spend time reviewing zippers. 

One of my objectives in offering marriage groups and mentor quartets is to go over skills early in the game. A couple that is not yet finished writing thank you notes from the wedding can usually finish a conversation about money without anyone's heart rate doubling. Six years out that is not always true. 

Even if couples are too busy for ongoing ed there are plenty of You Tubes that cover relational skills. 

Forty four years from now it does not matter if they remember the evenings we spent in conversation. But if they do I sincerely hope they know that I like them.