Andy Stanley is a pastor at North Point Church and has created a number of videos. He begins one by confessing that he is part of the population that gets lost. Even with a map and directions he will call his wife ten minutes after leaving the house for reassurance and recalibration.

"Was I supposed to go left when I saw the gas station on the right or right when I saw the gas station on the left?"

It is not my intention to get lost. Even when I stop to ask for directions I can physically feel my brain fog over if the helpful person offers too many details. If I am in the nearby town of Abington and am headed to Hatboro I cannot get there without going home in between. I have a clutter of memories of calling John in tears from some confusing corner in Philly, as I tried to find my way. It was a loving gesture when he bought me a GPS. 

"Because I never want to lose you."

Some of my kids on the other hand have an inborn sense of direction. They enjoy the adventure of a new itinerary, whereas I start to sweat. 

One of Andy's talks is called Destination. He describes how a person can go one direction while his destination is somewhere else entirely. 

"Oh, I want to have a good marriage. Absolutely. But that has nothing to do with what I do in college."

Really? That sounds like heading south from Los Angeles to get to Yosemite. 

My twins still pray every night for happy marriages, They started eight years ago when someone they cared about had an affair. That focus on their destination impacts what they watch and wear and say. Next week they begin ballroom dancing classes with the boys, and I imagine the steps they take will lead them closer to that goal.