I heard this sentiment the other day and it struck a chord. 

This weekend at the marriage conference a couple told me that it was amazing to them to contrast how they were this year as compared to last year's conference. 

"We were hanging on by a thread, and could barely smile at each other in the workshops. But this year we are exercising together, having regular dates and getting more sleep."

It is embarrassing how much of the time I forget that I have not Arrived. While I would never say it in so many words, I think the decisions I make today are based in solid experience. Then I look back five years at decisions I confidently made then and want to slink under the couch. Like sending my daughter to a school that ended when the principal went to jail. I wish I could rewind that one. 

One of the workshops last weekend was about the two halves of life. The first is about building up a resume, accruing wealth and finding out who we are. The second is about humility and giving ourselves away. One is appropriate for a time, and then other priorities emerge.  

Holding on to the awareness that I am not where I was before and am not yet where I am going leaves wiggle room. My marriage needs all it can get.