But this week the login page is all fancy new, and I have been forced to recall those details. The first time I was composing against the clock, and tried six times to get in without luck. Annoyed I sent the story to John in an email, knowing that he stays up later than me and has the smarts to get into the site. He was successful. The next day I tried again six times before it locked up on me, and I texted John about my woes. 

He reminded me of the information, and I typed more slowly this time. Bingo. I got in.  

I knew the right words, it was just that my habits are sloppy. It shows up when I sign an email too, as I often make the space prematurely which ends up coming out like this:

Lov eLori

I will not tell you my password, since that is a no no, but I will say that I consistantly missed by one letter. Because I was irritated I only repeated the mistake, rather than correcting it. 

This reminded me of some of the not so helpful patterns that show up in my interactions. My default response to people not doing their chores is usually to complain. Repeatedly. Which tends to keep them locked up. But since I am in a hurry I forget to react more intentionally, and I only reinforce the resistance. 

The other day I decided to go more slowly. I held my tongue. When my son woke up later than I was expecting, I did not greet him with a directive. I asked about his evening the night before. Then after he finished his lunch he went outside to work in the yard. How about that. 

Probably there are advantages to having to be thoughtful, rather than ricocheting through life. Certainly I don't bang into people as often.