A friend told me that his bookcase collapsed without warning. In the crash, many of their favorite hand thrown pots were smashed, pieces that he and his wife had carefully saved for to make their home beautiful. Probably some were purchased at galleries, since his wife is also an artist and travels in those crowds. Instead of loveliness, the wall was strewn with busted shards of clay and useless boards.

I suspect that from now on my friend will pay particular attention to the tensile strength of their shelves. They will read the labels, about capacity and weight bearing limits. Gradually they will replace the pots, one purchase at a time. Maybe in half a dozen years they will find other exquisite bowls and jars to bring them joy and serve soup in. 

Support keeps relationships safe, the way strong boards keep our belongings intact. Marriages need structures in place long before the strife comes. Having a mentor to spend time with is one way. Reading books and watching youtubes about communication is another. It may seem unnecessary, if you are already content with what is. But growing in love can put a strain on two people, as the load increases with children, and job stress. Waiting until you are already overburdened to find help may leave you with broken conversations and crashed expectations.