A friend sent a
link to a story about changing passwords. The author was annoyed when his computer at work required him to come up with a new one, one that he would type in multiple times a day. Then the idea came to him.
He could make a goal embedded in the eight characters. He chose something that seemed impossible, namely to forgive his wife who had left him. For thirty days he prayed with his fingers and by the end of the month it had become reality. The anger was gone. The next time his software demanded a fresh one he came up with another goal, one that also materialized through the daily ritual of clicking the keys.
John and I did something like that once. We had a password
for our bank account in California that referenced a quote about not making money carry too much weight. It worked. And by that I do not mean we got rich quick but rather I released some of the worry every time I swiped my card. My current bank gave me the password we now use, which has no meaning whatsoever. Seems like a wasted opportunity.
When John and I run marriage groups we often invite couples to articulate goals for their relationship. Unfortunately we
rarely do it in between. A new group starts this week, so I better get creative.
