Marriage Moats- Wendy and Peter Pan

Published: Sat, 02/08/14

 
Marriage Moats

Caring for Marriage
Wendy and Peter Pan
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Photo: Joy Feerrar   
It feels good to watch people who are happy. This video is of Peter Pan going down on one knee to ask Wendy to marry him. They were performing at the Hydro Theater in Glasgow, England. The audience erupted into applause when she burst into tears and said "YES!". 

How often do we get to peek on someone else's magical moments? There are plenty of synthetic ones on television, but to witness the real deal is precious. I will never meet either of the two people who promised to join their lives, yet somehow I ride on the coattails of their joy. Incredibly, there is enough to go around. 

How is that even possible? 

If love were a limited commodity like coal or endangered birds, it would be a problem. But love erupts from a Source that does not peter out after a few thousand years or even a million.

It's a good thing because if I were the primary fuel tank of my own marriage we would have hit empty ages ago. I know because I scrape bottom. Regularly. Then somehow another lock opens up like the Panama and a deluge I never knew about comes whooshing in.

One time was last week. I had been uncharacteristically kind and offered to bring back some boxes for a friend that were stored in her father in law's garage. John and I were headed that way and had the back half of a car to spare. So I said that if he brought it to the church we would load it up and carry it back. But Sunday came and there were no cardboard stacks. I was ready to wipe my mittened hands and head home without them but John asked for the time to call. 

"Five minutes. Maybe he has them ready after all." I kept my mouth shut and we waited at the gas station near the turnpike. Sure enough a man drove up in a red pick up and we nodded to each other. We had never actually met but the indications looked right. He had boxes. We had a van. John shook his hand and I noticed a wedding band. I knew that his wife had died a few years back of cancer. Suddenly my impatience melted into compassion. The transfer happened quickly and we waved goodbye. 

Where there had been nothing, suddenly there was a flood of affection for this man who chose kindness over efficiency. I loved him more than I had ten minutes before. And the spring was definitely not me. 

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Love, 
Lori

Caring for Marriage