But I enjoy it for its relevance to marriage.

Let's just start by admitting that I can be somewhat ferocious. Things are not so bad that I need to be caged up but I can roar with the best of the carnivores. Fortunately John has learned two things that help tame me. 

The little boy in the clip and the girl in this photo are both wearing stripes. Personally I think the tiger holds it as a gesture of respect. This small creature wants to look like me. That earns points. Then there is the willingness to notice when the tiger is left behind. The boy goes back for him and reinvites him to run together. 

Sometimes John makes an effort to look like me. It may be simply wearing a black shirt and tan pants when I am wearing a black top and tan skirt. It's cute, and it says he is watching. There are ways to reflect each other in behavior too. Neurolinguistic programming suggests that when you copy the stance of the person you are listening to they subconsciously feel more at ease. Interesting premise. Maybe not rocket science, but hey it's free, and has no calories which is more than I can say for roses and chocolate.

Then there is the effort to come back and reinvite. One time when John and I were duking it out I left the room with the sole purpose of seeing if he would come back for me. Don't try to dignify it with logic. It was not my most magnanimous moment but there you have it. And not only that he came. 

I felt incredibly loved. More so than if I had never run away.