It makes sense. Even though it is more convenient for the scientists to trolley around inside a submersible with a cup of coffee, the motor's hum sent skittish squids in another direction. It took patience to float a silent camera a quarter of a mile below the surface, festooned with a neon light that advertized lunch.

 

Sometimes it is difficult to uncover the feelings of your spouse. They are as deeply hidden below the surface as a Chubby Flashlight Fish. Creatures that have learned to live where there is no light, little oxygen and increased pressure cannot always survive when brought to the surface. Perhaps the same is true of masculine emotions. 

 

One time a friend was having trouble telling me something. The more I poked, the more he retreated. He got quieter. I got louder. After an impasse I backed off. I slowed my engines, and put away my hook. Eventually he drifted close enough to tell me that he was almost ready to tell me. But not yet. Although my imagination writhed with scenarios as frightening as a Norse Kraken, I was silent. John was wiser. He dangled a beacon of hope.

 

"Whatever it is, we love you."

 

 

 

 

 

 

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