One of my projects this summer is to finish UFO's. Those are unfinished objects: quilt tops that never made it off the shelf, or orphaned blocks that are waiting for sashing. Some were abandoned because I ran out of the right fabric, or couldn't make it lie flat. Others posed problems that befuddled me. My rule is to only invest six hours. With that limit in hand, I can delve into each expectant project without fear of falling down the rabbit hole. 

 

Already I have resuscitated three stars, six antique Sunbonnet Sues and embroidered baskets, and a collection of old fashioned dress blocks of velvet and silk with pearl buttons and enough lace for a royal wedding. Another self imposed rule is that I cannot under any circumstances go buy fabric to complete them. It must be done with the inhabitants of my sewing room which I will say is bursting with options. I should mention that I have taken these misfits out a dozen times over the years, and put them back. Waiting for... I don't know. A reason to finish them. Now I have one.

 

I can almost hear the fabric giggle to have been given a chance. Sitting on a shelf while you watch everyone else get turned into a real quilt probably feels like purgatory. 

 

A few years ago a couple reluctantly joined a marriage group. They were feeling iffy because, well, the notion of sitting next to each other once a week didn't sound like fun. Their marriage had stalled.

 

"Give it four weeks," I encouraged. "That's six hours, and if you are not enjoying it feel free to stop. Full refund." I winked. Groups are gratis. 

 

They took the bait, and things got brighter. Appreciations became less awkward, and being in the presence of three other couples who were a mixture of mediocre and dear made them feel less isolated. One of the qualities we aspire to in our groups is to keep it simple. No expectations of fancy dinners, or lavish gifts. Sometimes we invite them to bring sentimental objects they already have, mementos or pictures on their shelves at home. I love to hear what they tell about them.

 

They finished the series and their relationship seemed more beautiful. Warmer too.