Many catastrophes give you fair warning. Hurricanes start as storms, building up strength as they suck up water from the ocean currents. Heart attacks offer hints disguised as chest pains. 

 

One of my sons lives in Missouri, a state which recently suffered flooding from broken levees. Too much water. Another son lives in California, where the drought has dragged on for years, parching the land and leaving once lush farms dry as tinder.  Not enough water. 

 

Marital weather sends warning signs too. I read an article that articulates some of the early indications. Undermining your partner in public is one. Complaining about him or her indiscriminately is a second. Hiding money is a third.

 

Another article listed a slew of ingredients that lead to infidelity. Deceit is entwined in the list of precursors. You show off for this person. Care more how you look for them than for your spouse. Text them... and hide it. Tell them your private thoughts to the exclusion of your spouse. Anticipate your next meeting.  

 

For the price of two lattes you can get your hands on a book that will help you navigate your marriage back from an emotional affair. Consider it a life boat that can rescue you from the flood waters.